Neighbors’ lawns filled
with jack-o-lanterns, skeletons and spiders herald the approach of
Halloween—fun, harmless mischief, a sense of community. I remember being a
little girl all dressed up for trick-or-treat with my friends. We’d knock on
doors and reach up for our treats, the one time of year when even our parents
approved of the endless supply of candy. We steered clear of the stone house
midway down the block. Everyone knew the crazy lady lived there, ‘though no one
had ever actually seen her. Parents didn’t accompany us. The big kids took care
of the little kids. It was safe back then.
November approaches with
the anticipation of Thanksgiving. Extended family, both local and out of town,
will convene with warm hugs and laughter. A prayer of thanksgiving will be
offered up, with perhaps a sad reference to the grandparent or sister who will
be forever absent. But will there be tension beneath the surface? Will the two
feuding uncles make a conscious choice to finally put aside their differences,
remembering the bonds from their childhood? In the end, hopefully the family values
of cohesiveness, hard work, kindness, loyalty, safety, generosity, and respect will
be evident as conversation fills the long day, extending into evening.
Sandwiched between these
two holidays is the coming of election day. An opportunity to reflect on the
privilege of living in a democracy. The right to make our voices heard and to
help steer the direction in which our country is going. To consider the values
upon which our country was founded.
What can we anticipate in the months leading up to the 2020 election? Recently, it seems that many of us live by two separate, and sometimes opposing sets of values: our core values learned early in family, and our political values tainted with external concerns. Like the two feuding uncles, we can choose to tone down our animosity despite our differences. Let’s merge our political values with the values taught through generations of our families in the spirit of unity and respect.